Our Story
Sebastian
In the winter of 2018, a chance encounter on a dating app led me to the most incredible person I would ever meet: Hailey. I still remember that first date in my dorm room. There was an instant attraction. We sat in the cozy chaos of my space, and despite the awkwardness of our surroundings, it felt effortless and warm, as if we had known each other forever.
Our journey together has been anything but ordinary. I vividly recall our third date, which took an unexpected turn when we found ourselves in a car accident. Hailey was driving, and when we hit a faculty member of my school, it initially seemed like (to her) the end of our budding romance. But amidst the panic, all I felt was this deep connection to her—the worrisome moment only brought us closer, solidifying something I had hoped was beginning to blossom. As we supported each other through the chaos, finding strength in vulnerability and humor, we grew closer still.
Together, we’ve shared countless nights watching movies , playing games, or just existing in the same space. As much as we enjoy going out to concerts, or events put on by our friends, we feel the most connected and relaxed at home together. Through the ups and downs, we’ve learned how to navigate life together. Hailey’s empathetic spirit keeps me grounded, while my outgoing silliness brings her joy. We balance each other beautifully, helping one another conquer whatever challenges come our way.
When I proposed to Hailey during a picturesque picnic at Wawawai Park, with the sun shining over the Snake River Canyon, I knew I was ready for forever. Our goal is pretty simple: to grow old in love, create a warm household filled with laughter, and face whatever life throws our way as a team.
Hailey
We met on a dating app, which isn’t the most exciting origin story, but there you go! Sebastian planned to delete his profile, but luckily he waited until after I made my profile!
We matched, and right away we talked about anything and everything. It was a really easy way to get to know each other. Our conversations would range from “If you had to choose between being a pirate, a samurai, a knight, or a cowboy, which would you choose?” all the way to “What’s your most embarrassing memory?”
We got to know each other so well that, most days, he knows me better than I do!
Obviously, I would be a pirate (L.A. Meyer had been one of my favorite authors since middle school). In the adventure where I’m a pirate, I’m also an extrovert who doesn’t sunburn while wearing sunscreen or get motion sickness.
We met on a Saturday. Sebastian asked me to go on a date with him the following Saturday, but after talking nonstop and feeling like things were going well, I asked if we could go on a date before Saturday…
So on Tuesday, we went to dinner and watched Spirited Away (I’d never seen it before, and he couldn’t let that stand). For our second date on Friday, we watched It’s A Wonderful Life (he had never seen it before, and I couldn’t let that stand).
Our third date: the car accident…. I’d like it on record that this is the only car accident I’ve ever had since I started driving at 16; Sebastian must’ve distracted me, so it’s really his fault (I’m a great driver).
Our first two dates had gone well, but I was sure he wouldn’t want to see me anymore. Much to my relief, he didn’t stop talking to me; the rest of the day he checked on me to see how I was doing, and reassured me that he still had every intention of going on another date.
I like to joke that the car accident happening at the beginning of our relationship bonded us together; the strongest relationships are built on shared trauma (or however that saying goes).
We decided to move in together the beginning of January 2020, and the pandemic ensured that we had a lot of time to be around each other. We quickly realized how comforting it is to exist in the same space. We don’t have to talk or do the same task, just knowing that the other is nearby is enough. Some of our favorite days consist of Sebastian working on a lapidary project while I wander around and move plants.
We like to say that we’re “blissfully codependent”. I’m the worrier/list maker/‘I can go with the flow, but what time does the flow start?’ person. He’s the reassuring/food making/‘We’ll play it by ear; what’s the worst that could happen?’ person. Together, we make one (mostly) normal person!
And the rest is history
As we begin this new chapter, we invite you to celebrate with us as we declare our love and commitment to each other. Thank you for being part of our story
We look forward to whatever adventure finds us: together.
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